Anger – can be, broadly, considered to be of 2 kinds. A 'just' anger that is in the shape of a bell curve with a broad spread and an 'unjust' anger that is represented by a narrow spike.

Any justified anger needs an important precursor – to feel the wisdom or justice at heart, before allowing the anger to manifest.

Let us look at the characteristics of a wide-spread anger:

• This is usually the ‘just’ anger backed by the feel of wisdom or justice at heart.

• Throughout the entire spread, there are always opportunities to resolve the anger and dissipate it.

• It takes time for the entire spread to dissipate – so a just anger takes time to build and takes time to leave.

• The anger goes through a building phase (till it hits the peak) and such a just anger is expressed in multiple ways such as –

  o   Indignation

  o   Silence

  o   Resentment

  o   Withdrawal

  o   Retorts

  o   Extempore Responses and

  o   Planned Responses

• Another man/woman of wisdom will understand the above responses and the phase of anger associated with and will take constructive steps to diffuse the anger at the earliest.

• Men/Women of respect, allow anger to dissipate at the earliest opportunity; since they know anger is a ‘Poison Tree’. Once it becomes a fight for survival, and is near the peak, they will make sure that such an anger expressed, gets the desired effect such as –

  • o   Making sure the cause of anger is eliminated

    o   Making sure that the opponent who is the reason for the anger is put in his place. They will make sure that the opponent is in a place where they want before letting go.

    o   If they are not in a position of strength, they will wait for the right time and opportunity to materialize during the period of anger.

    o   Build any necessary control measures to leverage the lessons learned and to ensure that such a situation may not materialize again.

  
  

• Any peace plan should be discussed early on. A peace plan proposed near the peak will likely take more time to get accepted.

• The just anger of good Godmen/Godwomen or even a temple priest (who is religiously fixated with his sacraments and rituals including the chanting of mantras) – should be feared as they have a good strength of ICCHA SAKTHI through their practices and are also expected to have the innate ability to feel the wisdom at heart. A curse through such a conditioned ICCHA SAKTHI can be sometimes devastating.

• So as an energy loyalist, the true strength of a person comes from his ICCHA SAKTHI (expected to grow over time and as he/she spiritually matures more) and for a mass loyalist, the true strength of a person comes from his physical strength (expected to grow weak over a time). As we all know, becoming a self-knowing ‘inner’ person is the process of involution and this is a desired outcome.

• A person with the ability to feel anger in such a measured way with a desire to dissipate it at the earliest in a just manner need no anger management lessons or therapy because such an ‘anger’ – much like ‘friction’, is a necessary evil.  Anger – if managed properly helps us diffuse the pent-up feelings in a right way.

• Similar to the anger of an individual, and while being influenced by the maturity of the society, even groups can be swayed by anger and there is no harm if such an anger is a just anger and is controlled by wisdom.

• An unresolved 'just' anger can grow over time to unexpectedly levels - this anger is commonly termed 'Rowthram', and is usually seen against the persistent manifestation of malevolent evils!

• Examples of this type of anger is a good revolution (group) and expression through arts and words (individual).

• Sometimes, this type of anger can be evil too which is termed as 'Unmathham' or frenzy and can lead to situations like genocide (group) or psychotic behaviours (individual).

Let us look at the characteristics of a narrow-spread anger:

• They are sharp and spike like. They can appear any number of times in a given period in a person who may be considered immature and ignorant.

• They do not have a strong and justified manifesting reason but is likely to be an outcome of strong emotions only or stupidity (such as a feeling of invincibility) or a momentary feeling of being let out or being cheated. A single event or even a mild experience can trigger such an inferior form of anger.

• They may result in abnormal behaviours such as outburst, suicide etc., or can make a person resort to severe verbal/physical confrontations that is likely to introduce long standing problems in life.

• If a person expresses such an inferior form of anger at an increased frequency, such a person may lose his standing and respect in the society. He/she may need anger management therapy sessions.

• Such an anger can be treated in several ways including and not limited to psychological therapy sessions, soothing music, contact with nature, good food and ambience, good meaningful friendships, focus on in-pursuit of excellence and listening to discourses and talks by people of wisdom.

• Examples of this type of anger are group frenzy (group) and road-rage (individual)

• Sometimes this type of anger can manifest as good anger too such as spontaneous protests (group) or a good father's anger towards his child (individual).

Can anger end abruptly - instead of tapering down? Yes-

• A child can do it with its innocence

• If an even greater cause appears in the horizon of events

  
  

Hari om!