There are lot of social contracts in this universe such as –

Relationship between God and devotee

Relationship between father and son/daughter

Relationship between mother and son/daughter

Relationship between employer and employee

Relationship between government and citizen

Etc, etc.,

The basis for all these social contracts is “TRUST”.

Like an organizational hierarchy, like Maslow’s hierarchy, like a clan/tribe hierarchy, the emotions also follow a certain hierarchy. One builds upon the other and this emotional hierarchy unlike the other kinds, can be generic - aligning with public expectations or can be surprisingly person specific! Atoms form molecules that goes to become compounds. Trust is something like the basic atomic bond!

One of the foundational feeling/emotion is the TRUST. If this goes wrong, what cannot go wrong?

Loss of trust in LOVE may lead to suicidal tendencies.

Loss of trust in CLANSHIP may lead to outrage and exclusion.

Loss of trust in a COUNTRY may lead to treachery.

Loss of trust in a MARRIAGE may lead to divorce.

Loss of trust in FRIENDSHIP may lead to enmity.

Loss of trust in EMPLOYMENT may lead to anger and unwanted exits.

And one should always remember KARMA by thought. A god issuing a punishing decree or a person with higher virtues passing judgement are clearly not to be considered as bad karma being generated by thoughts or as trust being broken.

Trust is like a glue that keeps on building various types of relationships. Trust too should be considered transitive. Trustable person in life may lead to more trustable relationships. And certain relationships are more trustworthy than others. We cannot expect all broken relationships to heal in the same fashion in the same time frame. Sometimes in order to heal better, we may need a temporary break or time off. These time offs cannot be considered as a basis for a permanent break in relationship. Thus, for example, couples moving to divorce proceedings, may take a time off, be honest with their inner feelings, and evaluate their relationships and sense of belonging properly before deciding on separation. Strong sentimental and emotional states aided by anger, frustration and impulsive decisions may lead to wrong judgement. So, in such cases it is important to consider wise counsel from trusted aides and relationships before withdrawing permanently.

This time offs, sometimes, cannot be considered as a basis for permanent break. If people are honest about their feelings and if they can self-analyse properly, healing can be faster and they may end up considering that they are untrue to their inner feelings and thus may decide not to break off a relationship in question.

Money, power, position, assumed higher social class, crowd support etc., may blind a person in evaluating a relationship properly and may induce him/her to consider a sacred/golden-grade relationship as trivial. And this may lead him/her to take a given relationship for granted and thus he/she may introduce behaviours the eventually spoil it till trust itself breaks. A certain group based (like being teammates or collegemates or community friendships) negative hive intelligence accelerates this kind of degenerations. More so if accompanied by habits like consuming drugs/alcohols and when in creating ruckus in an inebriated/party mindset completely oblivious to the shattering essential relationships!

Trivial things may cause great damage to TRUST and eventually abrade/downgrade a sacred golden-grade relationship leading to complete breakage. And nobody may how much time needs to be invested in healing as there are lots of moving parts. Besides such unfortunate/one-off incidents may themselves become trigger to other parallel paths of destruction in life. Remember – healing/curing/construction/producing usually takes more time than breaking/hurting.

I pray to the almighty that every one of us receive this wisdom to cherish and nurture the blessed relationships of our life.

Hari Om!

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