98. The Bubble, The Spring Festival and The Magic Carpet Love
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I have written about this topic of formative years of a human – covering childhood and teenage. Please refer to my blog at –
In this topic, I am dwelling a little bit more on the psyche of a young adult and the preferred approaches that I thought that the society should have. I have separated this topic into 3 clumps – The bubble, The Spring Festival and the Magic Carpet Love.
The Bubble:
I have time and again emphasized how deep the carnal feelings and sexuality related knowledge can influence a young mind. In the younger times, the body and mind need all the energy it can find for completing normal development – mentally and physically. The synapses multiply, language abilities, cognitive abilities, motor skills, math and science knowledge etc., builds one upon the other and at breakneck speed cross-linking and development of new nodes/tissues happen. When such a young adult is exposed to unexpected sexual experiences, the whole ‘development’ bomb inside the human body is rudely shocked! We are all aware of how (ask this to some old age friends that you may meet in your life), when our mind/body learns of the sexuality related awareness for the first time, it grips the mind and body like a vice and never lets go! That knowledge/grip sometimes stays till the end! Whenever the young adult has free time, the thoughts get diverted to this newfound experience. All the physical/mental energies that would otherwise have deployed on the ‘development’ bomb, is drained on this newfound experience. It makes a person guilty and dull! Thus, we see the need for ‘The bubble’ – the boy or the girl – in the bubble, and it is largely the responsibility of the society to create and maintain this bubble along with responsible parenting.
The function of this bubble is to insulate the young minds and bodies from unwanted/damaging experiences of the sexual kind. Proper parenting and societal guidelines and strict monitoring and control along with punishing law enforcements can sustain such a ‘logical’ bubble for young minds as long as it is needed. The bubble should also control the media exposures like the ones coming from internet and handheld devices since through this great harm may be done relatively in a short time. I am going to the extent of, even suggesting a totally a new class of handheld devices for under 16 - not the ones that adults use, perhaps with parental control softwares and malware identifying/removing softwares. Like the cigarettes and alcohol the adult level handheld electronic devices should have age restrictions applied with appropriate software and hardware controls.
The Spring Festival:
When and how should such a bubble break?
The bubble should be allowed to be broken by the parents/society at the right age and mindset of the young adults but should be broken only by the concerned young adult in an inside out manner. So, there should be a precedence of knowledge insemination as related to human body, functions of the mind/body including and not limited to psychology and basic sexual education. The ‘surprise’ should be allowed to be broken carefully to the young ones by the carers very gracefully and carefully. By then, they may mentally acknowledge and accept their attraction to opposite sex and may accept the ‘mysterious’ answers delightfully! They may be ready for dating. They may also be warned about predatory forces and should be advised on how to protect themselves.
Backed by the new awareness given by education and dating-needs, the young adult minds can take their relationship further if they find each other very pleasing and attracting.
I have heard from some old historical references that when such young minds were ready, the local societal groups, organized what was called as ‘The Spring Festival’, once a year, post completing the needed training for the young minds where the related young ones were treated to good food, shows, music and lots of fun activities and then allowed to date. Then, this is a day the young ones will remember for a long time in their lives and their respect for love, marriage, golden relationships etc., will increase to unprecedented heights.
Thus ‘The Spring Festival’ allows for the carefully protected bubble to be broken by the young ones themselves in a much more safe and controlled manner.
The Magic Carpet Love:
The young adults who went through the proper sex education classes and who went through other needed dating-courtesy trainings, protection, guidance and security trainings will appreciate his/her new partner and the relationship much more profoundly and deeply. Any experiences from a well conducted/organized ‘Spring Festival’, may also reinforce their love-relationship. The sum total of such profound and blessing experiences may anchor their souls to each other and such a love-pair is said to be floating on the ‘Magic carpet’!
This is the love relationship, that I term as – ‘magic carpet love’ where the young pair is almost oblivious to the external world and cannot have enough of each other. It is a great blessing to experience such a faithful and honest love. In ordinary circumstances, this magic-carpet love, may take the pair through university education, marriage and childbirth easily! Sometimes they last a lifetime. If it sours at some point, say due to a mid-life crisis, the memories can heal the wound, and the relationship can pick up strength and last till their old ages!
Hence the society should celebrate this magic carpet love, wherever it is seen.
Perhaps, everyone remembers (it is about 28 years now) the movie - 'The Titanic' ! - not particularly for the scene showing the disaster- but for the joyous/bubbling love-relationship between Jack and Rose!!
Arts celebrates love,
Movies celebrates love,
Poets celebrates love,
Music celebrates love,
Dance celebrates love,
All things - higher and finer celebrates love - we humans are evolving for good and not digressing or degrading or in decadence .
Why should not an individual celebrate his love for a long time - say for 28 years or more?
Why should not the society starts to celebrate good romantic relationships - we -as higher and finer beings- after all, love to see a pair of birds cooing and cuddling?
Should not we create a conducive environment for the cooing birds to develop their romantic relationship and to build its families in our neighbourhoods so that our next generations can also enjoy what we enjoyed and considered priceless?
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